First Post. Why?

As of two days ago, I have become aware that my husband is addicted to porn. Needless to say, this is a pretty big deal and it has rocked my world. However, somewhat surprisingly, I've learned that this isn't really a unique thing. In fact, the reason why I was able to really figure it out is because it's a very common thing. While I plan to eventually make a post about learning that this is no unique problem and my journey to discovery so to speak, I really want to begin with the reason I started this blog. 

So, I started this blog because shortly after learning about porn addiction, I learned that there are all sorts of support groups out there for recovering porn addicts. That led me to thinking that if there are support groups for people who are recovering, then there's got to be support groups for people who are affected by those with the addiction as well. That led me to doing a few Google searches. I was a little surprised to see that the first few pages were all religious in origin. 

This didn't really work for me and it has nothing to do with my religious beliefs. It mostly has to do with the fact that most Christians have the mentality that masturbating or thinking of a woman who is not your wife in a lustful way is adultery. Not like. Not similar. Just is. Adultery. This just doesn't jive with me. I don't think that porn or masturbation is innately dirty, or sinful. I don't even think it's innately wrong. What I do think however, is that the addiction to these things is wrong. 

And that's really why I decided to start this blog. I wanted to put a point of view out there and make it available to the women (or men), who may be going through the same things I have already gone through, and probably will go through. And I wanted this point of view to be from a real person's perspective. From a person who's point of view isn't skewed by faith, religion, or congregational thinking. 

I like science. Actually, I love science. And when one of the first resources I found made it's points in reference to some scientific principles, I was sold. Well, I was really just relieved that what I already began to believe could be backed up by things I already knew. In fact, I kind of wanted to kick myself for not making the clear cut connections before. I will get more into connections that I did make in a later post.