Looking Back - Part 1.3 The Signs (that don't apply)

Just as the last two post were list of various different signs I felt I could see clearly after the fact, this is also a list of signs. The different about these signs is that I don't really feel like they are applicable to me, or as in a few cases, I think they are just complete rubbish made up to sensationalize a real problem. 

1. More antisocial: only thinking of the next "buzz". My husband's always been sort of antisocial, but I really don't think it stems from porn addiction. If it does, then it was probably something that started long before we ever started dating because he always considered himself antisocial or socially awkward. I kind of think this a more on the rubbish side of things. I mean, I know porn is an addiction, but I don't think that for most guys it's the for most thing on their minds. Well, what do I know. I don't have this problem.
2. Financial patterns have changed: new credit cards or unexplained charges. You know what.... this may have to be moved up a category to the things I didn't think of. I'm not sure. He did increase spending on this for a little while, but it's not anything I didn't know about. He always told me when he ordered something. Then again, I watch the credit cards like a hawk for fraud, and anytime I see something I always ask him about it. He usually tells me he feels like I'm keeping tabs on him. Whatever though, if it means we didn't go into debt over this addiction then I do not feel the lease bit guilty. I didn't before hand anyways since keeping tabs on him had nothing to do with my actions... as far as credit cards go. And I really doubt that he opened a new one because. Well, he just doesn't like having debt, and isn't good at making payments. He probably knows I would catch it that way. I guess it's a good thing he doesn't know a lot about prepaid credit cards huh?
3. Becomes secretive, evasive, or defensive: I don't think this applies because he knows when I won't be home or awake, or can hear when I wake up. For these reasons he usually keeps his porn consumption to times in which I am almost guaranteed not to catch him. And I'm usually really good about letting him know what's going on with me, where I am and when I'll be home. Usually. He doesn't get defensive about his computer use. The only times he gets defensive is when I tell him how much I hate it and that it feels like he doesn't care. Then he always throws back at me, "just like you smoking". I would always consider that a low blow since I was addicted to cigarettes. I guess the things we don't like about each other aren't that different after all. Knowing that may help me through this process. He would get evasive when I ask him what he did during times that I KNOW he watched/jacked. 
4. Uncharacteristically demanding or rough during sex. So, call me lucky but, my husband was never this type of guy. He's simply (normally) too nice and considerate. This is why I really didn't want to believe he would continue to watch porn even though he knew it hurt me so much.
5. "Your partner is practically wed to the internet". What ever this means, I suppose it means he spends more time on the internet than on his marriage. I put this in the category of rubbish or not applying to me because, again-maybe I'm naive, when he did spend an absurd amount of time on the internet (always saying he needed "me time"), he was usually just browsing car forums looking to learn new things about the changes he was trying to make to his car. That or looking at programming stuff or doing homework. I mean yes, he also looked at porn when he thought I was asleep or out of the house, but that wasn't the only thing he was doing on the computer. There were a lot of reasons-namely school-that he had good reason to be on it. Also, it legitimately seemed like the large majority of his time on the web was spent doing those things. Being "wed to the internet" while referencing porn addiction just sounds to me like saying, "he spent every available moment on the computer beating it".